“A sister is a forever friend.” -Unknown -
I always hear people saying that they want what I have when it comes to my relationship between me and my sisters. Perhaps I really am naive, but I think everyone can have this… but you have to be willing to put in the time and effort.
True Friendship isn’t about only being there when it’s convenient, it’s about being there when it’s not”
The above quote is one of my favorites, as it is so true. To truly be a good friend, you have to be willing to be flexible with your schedule. True, deep, meaningful friendship is not something that can happen on “your schedule”. It has to just happen and one has to be willing to say yes when asked for lunch or coffee. If you really want the other person to be there for you, you cannot give them a coffee date one month out, telling them you are too busy right now. Friendship is about showing up for the friend that needs to get away from her life and have coffee and laughter so that she can go back and handle her life. It is about being there, planned and unplanned.
I will admit I am truly blessed to have been born a triplet with my two sisters as my better thirds. They have been there from the beginning and so our bond is like no other. We share all those hidden moments and conversations that only happen in the late night hours or on those family vacations. However, just being born into the same family does not always make you kindred spirits the way I am with them. Rarely a day goes by where we are not communicating on some level, whether a phone call, facetime, an email or texting. Even if just posting a picture to our shared photo stream. We show up everyday for each other and I think that is what the difference is. If you think to that person you call your best friend, how often do you really talk to them - amongst the busy life of work, kids, activities… do you include them in your daily happenings, call them when your kids are sick, let them know you are heading on vacation? I am the luckiest person that I can honestly say my blood, my best friends are both in the same! My family.
To be a good friend, you need to show up. And my sister’s and I do that every day for each other. Nothing is too little or too big. We are there for each other, always… period.
We make the effort to not allow our busy lives to take over. When either one of my sister’s text, I text back immediately, and I call them when needed. I know that I want them to respond to me, so then I need to respond to them… so I do. We plan vacations together and so our kids are the closet of cousins, almost like siblings! And that is the way we want it.
So if you want this… then let your actions get you what you want. Of course I know that not everyone is blessed to be born a triplet, but you can get pretty close by showing up for those that matter most, your friends. I can assure you, it will be worth the effort! And one way or the other, you will learn who your best friends are, if they are willing to put the effort in themselves.
“Rain or shine… I’ll always be here. PINKY PROMISE!”
“Some talk to you in their free time and some free their time to talk to you. Learn the difference”